Woman Marries Cousin’s Ex After Homewrecking Their Relationship, Cousin Refuses to Attend Wedding, Despite Parents Insistence: ‘Just let it go’

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    r/AITAH 8 hr. ago GroundFriendly869 AITAH for refusing to go to my cousin's wedding after she slept with my ex?
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    So, I'm (19F) really torn about this. I've got a cousin, let's call her "C" (21F), who I used to be really close with, like basically sisters. Last year, I was in a pretty serious relationship with my now-ex boyfriend "B." We'd been together almost two years, and honestly, I thought we were really solid. We were talking about
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    moving in together, plans for the future, all that stuff.
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    One day, though, I found out he was cheating on me, and the person he was cheating with was C. When I confronted him, he admitted everything. I was absolutely heartbroken and furious. He had all these "reasons" like he and C just "clicked" and he "couldn't help it."
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    He even tried to make it sound like they were some sort of soulmates or something.
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    When I found out, I immediately cut ties with both of them. I couldn't look at C the same way after that, and she never even really tried to apologize. I just stopped talking to her altogether. I didn't explain much to my family at the time, just that we broke up and I wanted some distance from C.
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    Fast forward to now, and C and B are getting married. And here's the kicker my family is expecting me to attend. She sent me this long message saying she wanted to "clear the air" and that they're "in love" and didn't mean to hurt me. She actually tried to justify what they did, like somehow their love is supposed to make me feel better about the betrayal?
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    My family, especially my mom, keeps telling me I need to "let it go" and "support my cousin" because "family is family." They say I'm being immature for not attending and that I'm "holding a grudge," but honestly? I just feel like it's too much. They're asking me to sit there and smile while I watch two people who completely crushed me say their vows and celebrate.
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    I told my mom I wouldn't go, and now she's telling me I'm selfish and that I'm going to cause a huge scene by not showing up. My aunt (C's mom) called me too, begging me to come because it would "keep the peace." Apparently, some family members don't know the full story and think I'm just being
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    petty or something, which makes me feel even worse. So now I'm stuck. AITAH for not wanting to go?
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    Few_Stranger_20... • 8h ago • NTA! They betrayed you so not the AH and tell the rest of your family they are the AH for making you attend the wedding!
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    ik... 7h ago Edited 7h ago • NTA. They're AHs and so is your family for being ok with this.
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    Tell your mum: 'C stopped being my family when she my boyfriend'. And tell her that if she continues to pursue you attending not only will you air all of the dirty laundry on social media but you will cut her and anyone else who pushes you out of your life and go
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    NC. And remind her that doing this means she will never attend your future wedding or meet her grandchildren.
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    AssistanceOk3669 • 8h ago • 18 NTA What you need to let your family know is that they can be cut off just like C if they don't respect your boundaries. It's not your duty to falsely narrate a love story's beginning to save face for them.
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    LesbiansonNept... • 8h ago • Ask your mom & aunt why "family is family" wasn't considered when your cousin slept with your ex knowing it would hurt you. NTA.
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    Smooch No 8h ago • NTA she wants you there so it appears to the family that their infidelity is forgiven. Don't go, only doing so makes them look better and will make you feel worse. Treat yourself to a massage or something to the value you would have otherwise
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    spent on their wedding/gift etc. you're mum wants it to be comfortable for her but it's not about her and they should feel ashamed.
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    springflowers68 • 7h ago • NTA and as a mom I am really disgusted with yours. She should 100 % have your back here, and frankly, I don't think she should go to and support the wedding of people who betrayed her daughter.
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    midwest73 .7h ago • NTA - Seriously, it's like you need a new family. All of them are narcissists from your cousin to your Mom. I don't know what friend situation you have, but may be time to look at good ones as family. Or if possible, move and start fresh.

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